Looking at RTS714N12S03 and RTS6BS14N12P03 connectors: Will this pair mate? It looks like SS24M2F and SS16M2F are the recommended contacts, but I don’t see Male / Female varieties. Is the same contact used on each end?
Yes these numbers will mate together.
The contact part numbers for the RTS714N12S03 will be MS16M23G30 or MS14M23F
The contact part number for the RTS6BS14N12P03 is SP24M2F.