looking to find out which connector and pins I have… I have put a new 2.3mm next to my existing pin for comparison…my existing pin is 3.5 +/- mm…
Hello @shaunt23, Welcome to the community!
The closest similar looking parts in our system are here. Unfortunatley, I wasnt able to locate that exact one. Do you know what the pitch (center-to-center spacing) of the connector is?
the pins are broken, so my best measurement is 6mm… but if you can point out the most similar ones with the same opening, and the compatible pins, I don’t have an issue ordering a few of them to see see which one ends up fitting… the opening (female side) is 7mm tall x 13mm wide…
What is the center-to-center pin spacing?
i believe 6 or 6.1mm
It does look similar to A25468-ND, but without those flange pieces.
Please look at the drawing .
If that will work here are the contacts.
look correct now that I cross referenced with inches 
there are many contacts, what are the differences?
I am using this in a marine application
Some of it will be wire gauge. You can also click on the data sheets of what you are interested in. This will break the parts down farther for you.